"would like to know all of your opinions (without anyone fighting!!) crying it out - good or bad? THANKS!"
The response was incredible! About 60 total with either comments, messages, or phone calls. After reading everyone's responses and listening to my friends I decided to just to what felt right for John and I. You might remember my post about how I wanted to jump off a cliff because of Heidi screaming each day after I picked her up from my parents' house. Which, by the way, is almost non-existent at the moment - yay Heidi (and mama!!). SO, when I wrote the post about crying it out or not it was around the same time as the wanting to jump off a cliff and I decided I really could not sanely take all that crying. I would probably want to stick my head in the oven. Basically Heidi only will cry when she is placed in her crib to sleep - so we're co-sleeping for now. I know, gasp, and all of you saying, "she's going to be in your bed forever" and blah blah. No, she won't. I do not recall sleeping in my parents' bed (ever actually) when I was 18, do you? She goes to bed easily and it works. What's the harm in treating Heidi like a baby? She is a baby and all she wants is love and to be close to her mom.
Now, in no way am I saying that my way of doing things is better than how you are doing things for your family. There are so many ways to do things and there is not one set right or wrong way to do things, but I know that I am doing things the way that works for us and Heidi. Eventually she will be back in the crib, but for now she sleeps with us :) Heidi is going through a lot right now - she has had three teeth coming in right after the other without a break, growing up so much, and needing a lot of extra energy for all her crawling, pulling up, and trying to walk!