Saturday, February 12, 2011

Cry or No?

A couple of weeks ago I posted my status on Facebook as this:

"would like to know all of your opinions (without anyone fighting!!) crying it out - good or bad? THANKS!"

The response was incredible! About 60 total with either comments, messages, or phone calls. After reading everyone's responses and listening to my friends I decided to just to what felt right for John and I. You might remember my post about how I wanted to jump off a cliff because of Heidi screaming each day after I picked her up from my parents' house. Which, by the way, is almost non-existent at the moment - yay Heidi (and mama!!). SO, when I wrote the post about crying it out or not it was around the same time as the wanting to jump off a cliff and I decided I really could not sanely take all that crying. I would probably want to stick my head in the oven. Basically Heidi only will cry when she is placed in her crib to sleep - so we're co-sleeping for now. I know, gasp, and all of you saying, "she's going to be in your bed forever" and blah blah. No, she won't. I do not recall sleeping in my parents' bed (ever actually) when I was 18, do you? She goes to bed easily and it works. What's the harm in treating Heidi like a baby? She is a baby and all she wants is love and to be close to her mom.

Now, in no way am I saying that my way of doing things is better than how you are doing things for your family. There are so many ways to do things and there is not one set right or wrong way to do things, but I know that I am doing things the way that works for us and Heidi. Eventually she will be back in the crib, but for now she sleeps with us :) Heidi is going through a lot right now - she has had three teeth coming in right after the other without a break, growing up so much, and needing a lot of extra energy for all her crawling, pulling up, and trying to walk!


Caroline said...

I know with having four children they all are different and no matter what might be right it depends on the child. Do whatever works best. Take care

Stacy said...

Good for you! Keep trying the crib, but I agree... she's only a baby once! Harp is in his toddler bed, and he'll wake up and come to our room and we still pick him up and put him in bed with us. He's just so snuggly! :-)

Stephanie said...

We have chosen to co-sleep with all of our children (one at a time:) and are doing so again with Silas. We all get the best rest this way, and it has always been the best thing for our family. No judging, just another "hey~ your not alone mama!"

Ruth said...

Love it! Ingrid goes to sleep in her crib, and, depending on how tired I am during the night, she comes to bed with us some time in the wee hours. My favourite way to sleep is face to face, with her little arm around my neck. You can't beat it!

Cecilia said...

We are working on this as well. If the three of you are happy with it I don't see the problem.
I know a lot of folks don't understand it, but I love sleeping next to her. I told my husband that I spent 27 days staring at her in an incubator, I want to soak up all the time I can get. Right now we are working on sleeping in her crib during the day. If I can conquer that and us both feel good about it, then I'll consider our nighttime routine. Glad to hear I'm not the only one!

Holly said...

I didn't do much cosleeping with Kyndra but I do with Lainey. Just a change in parenting after Carleigh. I love being close to her but she's also good at sleeping by herself too when needed like when I go to work in the morning.

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