Take on Mother's Day

Mother's Day was a few weeks ago and I wanted to post my "take" on the day as well as address all of the recent posts filtered around on social media. I get it, I really do. Mother's Day can be hard. My first two Mother's Days I was a childless mom and the sting of the holiday could be unbearable at times. Even after having living children I really did not even feel like celebrating the holiday. I didn't want to celebrate if my first child was not living.

Flash forward to this year. My feelings are still the same, I'm not big on the holiday, BUT and a very large BUT, we cannot make others feel guilty about celebrating a holiday just because it makes us sad. I know - that is a tough and harsh pill to swallow, but its true. There is always going to be a time or place when someone is sad - Christmas, Thanksgiving, Wednesday, a local restaurant, you name it. People are always missing loved ones, craving for something else, or discontent with something. 

I know what it feels like to be at church on Mother's Day when moms are standing and you can't. The one thing in my life that I was certain about was that I wanted to be a mom. I also remember the feeling of finally being able to stand. Finally getting that moment I had been craving. It was actually a little embarrassing standing, but that's just me. I like to blend in with the masses rather than stand out. Regardless of how that moment felt to me there are so many people that are just bubbling to get a chance to have that moment. 

With that being said, I wish that people could allow for others to be able to celebrate something in their life without being made to feel guilty for celebrating. If we're going to start picking on Mother's Day then here is a list of things that I would ask people not to celebrate or post pictures of because it makes me sad: 

-families with three children

-your six year old children "graduating Kindergarten {seriously, when did graduating Pre-K and K involve miniature cap and gowns??}

-next year's back to school pictures when your kids start 1st grade

-6 year olds in general

I could go on and on. The point we have to be able to celebrate with our friends and families. We cannot let our grief or sadness overtake us and cause us to want to change everyone else's moment just because it is something we cannot have at that time. I am sure there was probably a more delicate way to word all of that. but today is just a day to be blunt.